Owning Your Happy Ending

It’s all about perspective.

That's what I’m telling myself, as I’m jammed into the middle seat on a four-hour flight. I'm trying to remember that really, this is a lot easier than being up with a colicky baby for four hours. And that business trips, actually, are a weird sort of luxury. Generally, I’ll sleep through the night, and if I pack enough granola bars and apples, get to eat when I’m hungry.

If you’re with an infant 24-7, my guess is that sounds pretty relaxing.

I’ll remind myself again in a few hours, when I’ll be in what is probably a very nice hotel room. I will tell myself to enjoy it, rather than wondering what the heck I’m doing here by myself, without my husband.

Yes, it's a truism: While I can’t control my surroundings, I can control my response to them. I can be thankful or I can be snotty. It’s my choice. I've been told this a hundred times, and it's still hard to fully accept. It sounds easy, but it’s really hard.



Thought This Might Be of Interest

Keeping quiet. Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella stepped into it last week when, at a conference to celebrate women in technology, he said women shouldn't ask for raises. "It's not really about asking for the raise but knowing and having faith that the system will actually give you the right raises as you go along," Nadella said. "Because that's good karma. It'll come back because somebody's going to know that's the kind of person that I want to trust. That's the kind of person that I want to really give more responsibility to." A day later -- and after much criticism by folks highlighting the pay gap between men and women -- Nadella had changed his tune. In a blog post to Microsoft employees, he said he answered the question "completely wrong" and that "men and women should get equal pay for equal work." He added "If you think you deserve a raise, you should just ask."
Not so much fun. The world of gaming is a strange, disturbing place, if the antics of a group calling itself #GamerGate, which is attacking women who criticize the male-dominated gaming culture. "Anita Sarkeesian, a feminist cultural critic, has for months received death and rape threats from opponents of her recent work challenging the stereotypes of women in video games. Bomb threats for her public talks are now routine. One detractor created a game in which players can click their mouse to punch an image of her face," reads a New York Times story about the group. Sarkeesian told the newspaper that gaming companies need to speak out against harassment of women. Representatives of three gaming companies -- Electronic Arts, Activision Blizzard and Take-Two Interactive Software — declined to comment, the New York Times said, noting that the term hashtag #StopGamerGate2014 has now become a trending topic on Twitter.
Wonder Woman! Movies about superheroes isn't news -- think Captain America, Batman, Superman and so on. But it's heartening to hear that at least one female superhero -- Wonder Woman -- will get to be the star of a new film in June 2017 from Warner Bros.  No word on the script except that Wonder Woman will be the daughter of Zeus. We just wonder if she gets to keep the invisible plane that TV Wonder Woman, Lynda Carter, made famous. 
Image from Anita Sakreesian's YouTube series, feminist frequency, that looks at gender issues in video games.

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